Friends of Ellis
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Finding People
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Websites
There a lot of websites that you can go to to find other swingers. Some of our friends run some local ones. Some of the benefits of a searching on a website are being able to chat and exchange pictures before you meet. You can get a better idea if you and the other couple might click if you talk and discuss before meeting in person. Some of the downsides are people not being who they say they are. Or wanting to talk via endless emails only to end up flaking and not meeting up. Another pro to websites is you can maintain your privacy and only disclose as much as you want. Another con to it, is that some of the websites you may visit have a hefty fee for using it, and you have to pay to see pictures, or send emails ect…
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Craigslist - Well not anymore. We just haven't found a replacement yet.
Aahh the old stand by, Craigslist. A lot of people use it and probably just as many avoid it. It has a lot of the same pitfalls as websites. Like not being sure of who you are meeting. The pics they posted are from 4 years ago, all the flakes on Craigslist, ect…. But there are some pros to it. A lot of people are on it. If meeting up right away is your thing, they are usually looking for the same.
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At a Swingers Bar / Club
If you are meeting up at a place that is specifically for swingers, you don't have to worry about the chance of propositioning the wrong kind of person. If you are at a club that is on premise (Sexual activities are welcomed at the facility) then you have the chance to meet and play with a couple that night.
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At a Vanilla Bar / Club
This one can be a bit tricky, you may end up walking up to someone who you like and ask them if they want to get together, only to have them get offended. It can be difficult to find swingers in a vanilla environment. But it’s not impossible.
Some swingers wear a black ring on their right ring finger to signify that they are in The Lifestyle. Other’s will ask or answer yes when asked if they are “Friends of Ellis”? The bottom line here and for all other situations is be respectful and careful in your words and actions.
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Environments
Swing Dates
A date between you and another couple.
Usually you meet the other couple online. Craigslist, Swingers Site, etc… You message back and forth, then decide to meet up and see if you click, or their profile pic is up to date…
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Meet and Greets
Speed Dating for Swingers! Typically held in a public place. Sometimes held at regular intervals, or every once an a while.
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House Parties
A group of friends getting together for a night of fun.
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Clubs
For profit. They have big, upscale facilities that offer showers, DJ’s, dance floors, alcohol, and many other things.
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Swing Dates and Meet and Greets tend to be really nice for those who are newer to The Lifestyle because they are a no pressure situation and focus on “Getting to know each other” Generally, no opportunity / ability to play
House Parties tend to be very “Clique”. It’s usually a group of friends inviting their group of friends.
Clubs are focused on making a profit.
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Anywhere you go, get ready to blow off the dust on your “Dating Game”