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Getting a Couple Into Bed

 

How to ask if they "Wanna Play"?

  • "Wanna Fuck". I can't believe this line works but I have seen it used so many times.

  • Do you two want to go find a room together?

  • Are you two interested in playing with us tonight?

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If someone asks you but you don't want to.

  • Just respectfully say "No".

  • Maybe you didn’t click with them.

    • Respectfully let them know that.

  • Maybe that night you are just observing.

    • Maybe you can’t play that night. Or you just walked in and need time to unwind. Be honest with them.

  • Whatever your reason is, be honest. 

    • If someone has said no to you, it's not personal.  Just because we are all here to play doesn’t mean we will play with everyone. 

  • Many times, a person from one couple is attracted to one from another couple. 

    • It’s up to your rules and boundaries whether you take one for the team. We suggest you discuss this beforehand, not in front of the couple asking you to go to a room.

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In The Bedroom

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Don't be nervous, TALK!

  • Do you know exactly which buttons turn your spouse's legs to jelly?

  • How about the couple across the room? No? That's the point here. When you are playing with another couple, let them know what you like and don’t like.

  • I once knew a swinger girl that didn’t like bodily fluids, like spit. 

  • Also, while playing with another couple, remember to take a break with your spouse. Are you two playing within your Rules and Boundaries? 

  • Remember the others in the room, are you playing within their Rules and Boundaries.

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Taking A Break In The Moment

While you are talking with another couple there may come a time where you and your SO need to go talk privately.  The other couple also may need to do this. Taking a break may also be necessary while playing. If someone says they need stop for a minute it’s not an insult.  It’s okay to go get some water, freshen up, or just go out and talk. Remember that everyone is only human and sometimes we just need a minute to breath.

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