Lifestyle Rules

No means No!

Use protection

Only go as fast as the slowest person

Respect the limits of who you are playing with
Don't push anyone else's limits. It's disrespectful

Tell the truth

Don't lie about your age, what you like, or what you want to do
Even if you are not interested in someone. A simple "No thank you" is best in answering verbal or DM (Digital Messaging)

Maintain everyones privacy.

Even the people you don't know, or can't see. Tell the "What" not the "Who" If you take a picture, make sure no one is in the background, or get their permission 1st.

Don't bring drama to a Lifestyle event

Did you just have an argument? ~ Stay home!
Are you two not exactly on the same page about tonight? ~ Stay home!

Don't be fake

Not to people you meet
Not to your partner
Like anything, there are rules you have to play by. It’s a lot easier to play baseball when you know which direction to face when standing at the plate. You gotta set yourself up so you can hit a home run.

Always ask first!

First things first, Always ask first! Ask before you touch, play, etc…

Health and Hygiene

Oral hygiene is a basic necessity for everyone. Bad breath or body odor is a big turn-off for your potential partners. Shower and groom well before you leave for the party. Good cologne, perfumes or body sprays will give you the edge in the environment. The best way to enjoy the party is by freshening up once you reach there.

You two need to be social

Many people go to swingers clubs and complain -- much as they probably did in high school -- that everybody there is “too cliquish.” But there are no Regina Georges in the swingers world (mean girls movie reference), and nobody is going to sneer at you and say, “You can’t swing with us.” Yes, swingers gravitate towards their friends -- like everybody else -- but go up and say hello, and you’ll be surprised how fast people will welcome you.

Don’t overdo the alcohol

You know what’s a miserable feeling? Spending all week fantasizing about a threesome, getting to the point where it’ll actually happen, and then realizing you drank too much to do anything about it. Sure, you might need a drink or two to get used to the idea of swinging, but past that not only do you risk whiskey dick, you risk BEING a dick. And, much like in real life, nobody wants to have sex with an inebriated mess.
Limit your drinking, It’s science. If you are nervous, you are going to drink whatever is in your hand more often than if you were not nervous. Drink plenty of water, etc… you know how to stay sober. If you don’t, be with somebody who does. You don’t want to bring the party to a halt because you drank too much and it’s taking 10 guys standing around you trying to convince you to relax. It happens a lot, you drink too much and hope you didn’t make a fool of yourself the next day. Or worse….

Set realistic expectations

Even if you and your partner agree to be down for “full swap,” don’t go into a swingers club with the unrealistic expectations of a pledge at his first frat party. Nobody’s guaranteeing an orgy, and sometimes you may go and not find any couples you like. Also, the action may not start until much later in the evening, so don’t get bored and leave because nobody’s getting it on by midnight.

You need to debrief

Kinda like those quarterly conference calls at the office where your entire team looks at what it's accomplished, what worked, and what didn’t, do the same with your partner after EVERY time you swing; the conversation will allow you to discuss the experience and figure out if boundaries or rules need to be changed or added, or if there are different things you’d both like to try next time.

Communication is Lubrication

Like everything in a relationship, swinging won’t work if you don’t communicate. And talking about what you did after the fact is the most important part in making the next experience just as mind blowing.

Each venue and event may have different rules

Pay attention to the rules of the facility. A club will have different rules than your friends house.

No cell phones

Bring a pen and paper to get phone numbers, facebook, discord, or kik. People think you are taking video or pictures if you have a cell phone out

No drugs

Legal or illegal

No prostitution

No Fighting

No Weapons

Do you carry a pocket knife where ever you go? Don't carry it here.
We attended a meet and greet one time and some guy said something to a lady and it offended her boyfriend who in turn, said he was going out to the car to get his gun. Holy Schnikes! That’s a terrible situation to be in, don’t let it happen.

Like anything, there are rules you have to play by. It’s a lot easier to play baseball when you know which direction to face when standing at the plate. You gotta set yourself up so you can hit a home run.

First things first, Always ask first! Ask before you touch, play, etc…

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