Weekly Switching Roles Between Dom and Sub

We have a couple in our community who has wanted a space to write and share their experiences in their sex life. We created this space for them.

Hello everyone on the internet!!! My wife and I have noticed a decline in our sex life. As I'm sure most of you out there can relate to. Life is just seeming to keep getting in the way. Buying a house, yardwork, watching over our children's lives and EVERYTHING that comes with that. We have found less and less time to focus on ourselves. We have a huge toy chest. Well, it's more like a dresser stocked full of toys. Dildos, anal things, clit things, dress up things, strap on things, etc. That doesn't include the machines we have built or the inflatable pool. When do we have time to use these?!!? Then we had an idea.....

A little about us first so you get to know us. We have been swinging for about 10 years. We lost our virginity to each other. Since then, we have added a few notches to the bed frame. We are very family first and our kids take priority. This usually gets in the way of swinging. When they were younger, we could invite over our friends, put the kids to bed upstairs and lay down some blankets for the adults downstairs. We sorely miss those days. Now we can barely have sex in our own bed without having a knock on our door. While navigating the waters of swinging, (we have lots of conversations about what we want to do, feedback on what we have done, etc...), we have found out that each of us want to explore things that the other is not excited about, or just physically can't do. We hold nothing against each other. We can't. If one of us doesn't want to do anal, that's that. No guilt tripping or anything like that.

She is wanting to explore age play. That is a very common fetish with women. They want to play with older men. Have the men say certain words that make them melt. He can't bring himself to do that. Having two young daughters he doesn't want to use the same words in and out of the bedroom. If that makes sense. Saying "Good girl" to your daughter while helping her on her homework then later that night saying the same thing to your wife with a pacifier in her mouth can give you a weird feeling.

He is wanting to explore things that she does not want to, causes her pain, or just doesn't do it often enough.